Online Dating
Originally Published Date:
April 9, 2013
Someone I know is looking to put themselves on the online dating market. But before they did, they wanted some input. They put a status on Facebook asking for input.
Online dating used to be soooooo taboo. Now it’s part of our normal way of life. Why? I tend to think that since the rise of social media (Facebook in particular) we spend more time online than we do out in public. The only way to meet new people is to go out in public. If you take that element out of the equation, then you can't meet new people.
I have done my share with online relationships in the past. When the internet became so popular in the '90's, it was a cool, new and exciting way to chat with new people. Of course, chatting with people led to having feelings and then bam you're in an online relationship. For the most part, most of them didn't work out for me. The reason is plain and simple: I was talking to people from all over the place. I had to narrow my search to a central, drivable location.
I also feel that, you have to be matured enough to handle meeting people online. Once I went through all the dating and this one and that one, I knew what it was that I wanted. You have to know what you want in order to make any relationship work. If you don't know what you want, then more times than not, you will settle for anyone who gives you the time. Which, in time leads to the inevitable breakup.
I tried an online dating service before and met some very interesting people from it. The dates were interesting but not enough to hold my attention. After that, I went back to Myspace, found a girl, convinced her to let me take her out and we had the best first date either of us had ever had. A year and a half later, we were on our honeymoon and I have never been happier.
I tend to think that when meeting people the old-fashioned way, people get hung up on looks too much. Good or bad, looks can get in the way of who a person is on the inside. People are more prone to start a conversation with someone that is appealing to the eye. I guarantee you that if you put an eye appealing person next to a not so eye appealing person, the eye appealing person will get the most responses.
By meeting someone online, it cuts through the looks and you get to know the person inside. If you are attracted to a person for WHO they are, looks do not matter.
Does on-line dating work? It depends on the people involved. If they are serious and know what they want, then yes it can work out. I see more and more people who have met their spouses online and have been married for years. My 5th wedding anniversary is coming up this fall. We have a house and 2 beautiful daughters. We could not be happier.
Until next time,
Thanks for reading!
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My wife and I have seen multiple couples come and go over the many years we have been together. I’m happy to say that in November, we will celebrate the 15th anniversary of our first date and in October, our 14th Wedding Anniversary.
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